It is when someone you love takes advantage of your kindness one time too many. At whatever cost to you, you have been kind to him or her. He or she has not appreciated or returned your kindnesses. You are as miserable as can be and the heart is broken when there is nothing in this world that can make you happy other than being inside a woman (or, for a woman, having a man inside you). Every other thing that previously made you happy reminds you of your essential unhappiness which relates to lack of caring for you. The person who has broken your heart may care for you but cares for him or herself more than you.

Not caring for oneself means that one does not mind whether one wears good clothes or eats nutritious food or not. If one wears good clothes, it is only for the sake of the person you love, mostly when you are with them. Wearing good clothes reminds one that one does not care and makes one sad. For a man, seeing a beautiful woman makes one temporarily happy, but being with her makes one sad.

A heart is broken by a specific man or woman. Once he or she has done that to you, the amount of care you normally give yourself is reduced: "you do not care" about yourself, even though you may care about others. If you look after yourself, it is for the sake of others (except for the person who has broken your heart). In the case of a dominant partner, you may still look after yourself, because the partner will take actions against your relationship and you do not wish to be further hurt.

Once your heart is broken by a person, he or she will never be able to make you happy from a love perspective. Your ability to give love to yourself and others from your love energy centre dies. You will also by definition then not be able to become fond of people, because fondness depends on having love for yourself, to care for oneself.

Why is it that someone who loves you may act in a way to break your heart? It is through fear of being dominated, that you will, if they 'give in' to your requests, ultimately ask of them something that they desparately do not want to do. This fear stops a man committing long-term marriage to a woman and stops a woman becoming a love-wife to a man.

If you have given him or her true love, then you will also never be made love-happy by another man or woman. If you have not given the man or woman true love, you should quickly find another man or woman to live with who will help you recover.

Although the person cannot make you love-happy, you may still love him or her. If you do sexual activity will still be enjoyable with him or her, and you will still obtain sexual happiness as distinct from love happiness from your partner.

You will also be able to obtain relationship happiness through having a child with them. However, any child will not be happy seeing your essential unhappiness and you need to consider whether you want to bring up a child unhappy.

Another form of broken heart is where someone who loves you truly sees you with a broken heart.

In one way having a broken heart is a good thing, because it makes you ready for your religious path. You no longer have fears about doing what God wishes you to do and hence the path of Ishvarapranidhana, surrender to God, is easier for you.